Episodes

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Nov. 17, 2025

Adding "Carriages" to Invitations, Making Animal Sounds at Dinner, Alleging Underbaked Brownies, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle adding "carriages" to invitations, making animal sounds at dinner, alleging underbaked brownies, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Carriages" on invitations A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Handling etiquette grey areas QUESTIONS FROM THE ...
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Nov. 10, 2025

Selling Soap to Wedding Guests, Eating Wine Corks, Tipping Hospital Valets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about selling soap to wedding guests, eating wine corks, tipping hospital valets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it tacky to sell soap at your wedding? What is the etiquette for eating your wine cork? When shoul...
284
Nov. 3, 2025

Spotting Americans Abroad, Declining to Go Horseback Riding, Singing on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle spotting Americans abroad, declining to go horseback riding, singing on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: The American Lean A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Turning around with subtlety QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude t...
283
Oct. 27, 2025

Decoding "Mountain Formal," Pacifying Picky Houseguests, Sharing Sushi Platters, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about decoding what "Mountain Formal" means on a wedding invitation, pacifying picky houseguests, sharing sushi platters, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Will wedding guests be confused by a “Mountain Formal” dress code? ...
Oct. 20, 2025

Second Helpings: Enjoying a Fika in Sweden, Staying at Bed & Breakfasts, Telling Guests What Not To Bring, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle enjoying a fika in Sweden, staying at bed and breakfasts, telling guests what not to bring to your party, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visi...
Oct. 13, 2025

Second Helpings: Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about picking the correct utensil for mac and cheese, spelling like an Australian, lingering in stores after they're closed, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Ca...
282
Oct. 6, 2025

Wiping Fingers With a Yubifuki, Dining at Michelin-Starred Restaurants, Calling Strangers “Pal,” and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using a yubifuki in sushi restaurants, dining at Michelin-starred restaurants, calling strangers "pal," and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Yubifuki (指拭き) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Michelin-starred Dining QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS:...
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Sept. 29, 2025

Hosting Surprise Houseguests, Correcting Misspelled Signs, Sending Late Sympathy Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about hosting surprise houseguests, correcting misspelled signs, sending late sympathy cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What’s the best way to handle being surprised by four extra houseguests? When is it appropri...
280
Sept. 22, 2025

Discovering Bone Dishes, Enduring Waiting Rooms, Texting Wedding Thank-Yous, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bone dishes, enduring waiting rooms, texting wedding thank-yous, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bone Dishes A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Waiting Rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What’s the etiquette of holding elevator door...
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Sept. 15, 2025

Dodging In-Law Requests, Melting Candy Bars in Diapers, Hiding Coffee Truths, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about dodging requests from mothers-in-law, playing unfortunate baby shower games, neglecting to disclose when you're serving half-caf coffee, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I decline my mother-in-law’s request to...
278
Sept. 8, 2025

Using Napkins in Italy, Changing Passwords on Friends, Handing Strangers Your Phone, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using paper napkins in Italy, changing streaming service passwords on friends, hanging strangers your phone, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Paper napkins in Italy A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being an AirBNB host QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: D...
Sept. 1, 2025

Anniversary Bonus: Holding Teacups Properly, Escaping Boring People, Clapping for Plane Landings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! It's our six year anniversary and we found a never-before-heard episode deep in the archives just for you. In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the right way to hold teacups, escaping boring people at parties, clapping when airplanes land, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding te...
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Aug. 25, 2025

Overreacting to Messy Houseguests, Skipping a Friend’s Wedding, Wiping Down Sticky Trucks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about overreacting to messy houseguests, skipping a close friend's wedding, wiping down sticky trucks, much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I do about a friend who asked me to “make adjustments” to a piece of art I made for t...
276
Aug. 18, 2025

Meeting Amy Vanderbilt, Acknowledging Mysterious Gifts, Retrieving Lost Phones, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle getting to know Amy Vanderbilt, acknowledging mysterious gifts, retrieving lost phones, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Amy Vanderbilt A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: The power dynamics of scheduling links QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I received a gi...
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Aug. 11, 2025

Rescuing Lost Chips, Taking Over Parties, Correcting People's Pronunciation, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about rescuing lost chips, taking over parties, correcting people's pronunciation, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should you do if you break a chip in a salsa bowl? What should I do about a guest who tried to change the loc...
274
Aug. 4, 2025

Saving Seats in Singapore, Avoiding Unnecessary Meetings, Bringing Your Own Sodas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle saving seats in Singapore, avoiding unnecessary meetings, bringing your own sodas to parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Chope-ing in Singapore A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Does this need to be a meeting? QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What shoul...
273
July 28, 2025

Pouring Water Like Wine, Breaking Up Before Weddings, Tossing Hair on Floors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about pour water like wine, breaking up before weddings, tossing hair on flooors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Why was water poured like wine at a recent restaurant visit? When entering a room where others are already gathered, ...
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July 21, 2025

Inviting Thirteen Guests, Attending Pool Parties, Hogging Laundry Machines, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle inviting thirteen guests to dinner, attending pool parties, hogging laundry machines in apartment buildings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Thirteen dinner guests A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pool parties QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to us...
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July 14, 2025

Summer Break: Demanding Birthday Cake, Putting Time Limits on Meals, Getting Nosy at the Pharmacy, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about demanding birthday cake, putting time limits on meals, getting nosy at the pharmacy, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW o...
July 7, 2025

Summer Break: Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle showing up at dinner parties empty-handed, riding elevators in France, being unapologetic about having nice weekends, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW ...
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June 30, 2025

Abandoning Dinner Guests, Running Into Former Students, Singing Happy Birthday, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about abandoning dinner guests, running into former students, singing happy birthday, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How would you react if a friend invites you to stay for dinner, but then has you eat in the kitchen while she goes t...
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June 23, 2025

Responding to Invitations, Enjoying Tennis, Dipping French Fries, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle responding to invitations formally, watching and playing tennis, dipping french fries, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Formally responding to invitations A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tennis QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the most polite way to cut ...
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June 16, 2025

Brushing Teeth in Airports, Taking Dessert from Buffets, Handling Unwanted Vacation Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about brushing your teeth in airport bathrooms, taking desserts from buffets, handling unwanted vacation guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠ QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to brush your teeth in an airport bathroom? When dessert is offered on a buffet, ...
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June 9, 2025

Flipping Over Cutlery, Making Friends in Kindergarten, Choosing Cup Holders, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle flipping over cutlery, making friends in kindergarten, choosing cup holders at sporting events, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ⁠⁠⁠ask.wyrbw.com⁠⁠⁠ EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Reversing cutlery on the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making friends in kindergarten QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNE...